A Sermon delivered to St.
Timothy Lutheran Church, Charleston, WV on February 15, 2015, based on: Mark
1:9-15 (Luke 4:1-14a).
Grace to you and Peace
from God our Father and from the Lord Jesus Christ!
In our Gospel lesson
today we see Jesus submitting to something that most of us would rather avoid:
Temptation.
Usually we see Temptation
as something to be avoided and feared. Jesus even taught us to pray: 'lead us
not into temptation, but deliver us from evil'... And in fact, Temptation is indeed
a solicitation by the Evil One to get us to do wrong. So, - not incorrectly we see
Temptation as something bad.
However, in Jesus’ life
and ministry we observe a different reality.
You’ll remember that
after Jesus was baptized, the Holy Spirit descended upon Him like a dove. He
was full of God, full of the Holy Spirit. And a voice came out of heaven
saying, "You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased” (Mark 1:11,
Luke 3:22).
And yet, immediately
afterward, Jesus was led by the very same Holy Spirit out into the
wilderness to be tempted by the devil for 40 days!
Like my daughter Leslie
might say, "What’s the 'dealio'?!"
Well, the dealio seems to
be that God had a mission for Jesus to accomplish. Armed with intimate
knowledge of God and trust in Him, Jesus allowed himself to be led out into the
desert to fast and to be tempted by Satan. Our Lenten fast is an imitation of
this Jesus Fast in the wilderness.
But if we’re going to
imitate Christ in our Lenten Fast, we need to understand what Jesus understood
about Temptation: that it does not come to us because God hates us or is trying
to trick us. Rather, God allows Temptation to come to us through Satan, so
that, like Jesus, we may be purified and prepared for our own mission up ahead:
participating with God in redeeming the world.
So why Temptation? If God
wants to teach us things, why not just give us an elaborate video game that you
can play over and over until you master the levels - and where if you die, your
character just comes back to life digitally?
I think it has to do with
the exalted place of Human Beings in God's Plan. God intends for us to be His
Friends! – To share Life eternal with Him and to share the Rule of the physical
universe with Him. That’s way better than the highest level of powers you can
accomplish through any video game!
Sadly, God’s Plan for us seems SO exalted that most of us would settle for something more like a dog’s life:
being happy, well-fed,
free from hard choices, and blissfully unconcerned about being like God.
Temptation comes to ask
the question, "Do you want to be LIKE GOD - or do you want to settle for
something smaller?
If you want be LIKE GOD,
it's not going to be easy. Just like Jesus, you’ll have to endure Temptation in
order to be purified, trained and prepared for God's Best: Participation in the
Divine Nature and Mission.
In Luke 4:1-12 we read
how Jesus faced and overcame Three categories of Temptation, all of which have to do with taking matters
into our own hands:
Provision
Power
Protection
Jesus resisted the
temptation to fulfill his own bodily hunger, and instead trusted God for his
daily bread.
He resisted the
temptation to grab worldly power and instead became King of Kings and Lord of
Lords.
And he resisted the
temptation to test God, and instead put the Evil One to flight, just as James
says, "Resist the devil, and he will flee from you" (James 4:7).
Jesus met each of these
temptations successfully, and as a result, 'returned in the power of the Spirit
to Galilee' (Luke 4:4) to begin his ministry. Thus Christ's Temptation was a
prelude to ministering in the power of the Spirit.
Our Temptations
I believe that we as a
congregation are facing some of the same temptations Jesus faced – but that if
we meet these temptations successfully we have the opportunity to be filled
with the power of the Holy Spirit so that we may minister to our world just as
Jesus did.
We seem to be on the
verge of throwing ourselves down into destruction as a congregation. We have
concerns about Power and we are worried about our long-term Provision as a
church.
We are full of
Consternation and Questioning: What is happening to us?
Why?
Many of us feel
discouraged. We may even be Desperate, wondering if we will ever get out of
this? Will it last forever?
Please be comforted with
this:
1 Cor, 10:13: says,
"No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is
faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but
with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you
may be able to endure it."
What I’d like to suggest
today is some very practical ways of escape.
Ironically, this advice
comes from someone who identifies himself first as a scientist, but also as a
faithful Jew – John Mordecai Gottman, PhD.
As most of you know, I’m
a Professional Counselor by occupation and a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist.
I’d like to sketch out for you a few of the basic principles the Gottmans have
discovered through their research and relate this along the way to our current
situation. By doing this I hope we can find some practical ways of meeting and
successfully overcoming our Congregational Temptations.
Gottman is famous for
what he called the Seattle Love Lab
He and his associates set
up an apartment in a local resort as a laboratory for observing couples’
behavior. Over a 40 year period, they worked with some 3000 couples. By
recording them for 12 hours per day and then minutely coding and decoding their
behavior, the Gottman team discovered two distinct patterns used by two different
groups. He termed these the MASTERS and DISASTERS of relationships.
The Masters consistently
practiced things nurtured their relationship:
They worked on creating a
good Friendship.
They had a Positive
Attitude about their relationship
They made Repairs when
their conversations got off track.
They acknowledged that
not all problems are solvable. And
They Honored and
Respected one another.
On the other hand, what
predicted failure was also very clear.
The Number One factor in predicting
relationship Failure is a pervasive pattern of Negativity…
Couples who showed what
we Negative Sentiment Override consistently manifested the Fundamental Attribution
Error: I’m Ok and you’re messed up – or Crazy or Demonic!
This Fundamental Attribution Error also manifests itself in what Gottman calls The Four Horsemen of the
Relational Apocalypse
- So called because they are the Signs of the End of a
relationship. In fact, Gottman now states that if these behaviors are observed
in a 15 minute segment of a couple’s conflict conversation, and they go
uncorrected over the next three years, he can predict the failure of the
relationship 91% of the time.
Criticism - This usually starts with 'YOU...always, YOU never, Why dont' you ever?!... It's finding fault with the other person and starting up Harshly and with an accusing atttiude.
Naturally, when we are on the receiving end of this we feel:
Defensive - we put up our shields of defense and might throw it back on the other person: OH, Yeah, what about YOU! What do YOU do?!
Contempt is when we adopt a morally superior attitude towards the other person and become disgusted with the things they do: We roll our eyes or bring back the Left side of our mouth in a kind a scowl or smirk. Contempt is like pouring sulphuric acid on your relationship.
Finally, Stonewalling is what happens when we get upset and want to leave the situation, either physically or by emotionally checking out. When our heart rates goes up about 20 beats per minute above its normal resting rate, we get too upset to really talk rationally and we just want to leave.
Unfortunately, this can be a real source of danger when there is no agreement that taking a Time Out is OK. It would be like a sports team calling a Time Out and just going home.
Men and women seem to have specific besetting sins in this regard:
About 80% of the time, women bring up issues for discussion, so women tend to be the ones to start Critically.
And about 85% of the time, men are the ones to get upset, defensive and who want to check out.
Now in this video, we can
see all four horsemen at work in just 30 seconds…www.youtube.com/watch?v=YZUMYU-Ghb0
Any of those seem familiar at St. Timothy?...
While we can’t
necessarily generalize from couple data to congregational outcomes, it’s
not hard to imagine that a congregation could easily split under the influence
of the 4 Horsemen.
If we’re not able to
successfully come together and conquer the 4 Horsemen in our midst, the
probability of failure could be as high as 91%.
I’m no prophet, but I can
tell you what the sign of this would be:
Here’s your sign:
It’s not impossible. Ask yourself the
question: Where are these churches now?
All Saints Episcopal, South Charleston, WV
Humphreys United Methodist, Charleston, WV
St. Paul Lutheran Church, Charleston, WV
Here's what St. Paul's posted on Facebook on November 27, 2013:
"We have closed our doors. Our building is for sale. Our church has moved to Trinity Lutheran Evangelical Church."
Imagine the future with
me for a moment and picture some possible
buyers
for our property:
The Bible Center could probably use a new Senior High School building.
Or River Ridge might be
interested in expanding their 20-something ministry.
This space would make a
great dinner theater…
Or perhaps the local
mosque would like to expand…
And think
about what we might offer an incoming pastor if we don’t get our act together. Imagine the Help Wanted Ad: "We offer:
•
Departing
Members
•
Declining
Giving
•
Fierce
Factions
•
Gridlocked
Council
•
Aging
Congregation
•
Few or Zero
Visitors
It’s vitally important
that we meet and overcome this temptation. Listen to this quote from Frederick
Barbee and Paul Zahl:
"There
is a proper sense of having your emotions under rein which precedes any
effective service outwards. You have to be free from ungoverned outbreaks of
personal need and personal pain if your attempted works of love are not to be
marred by self-interest and self-service, even self-sabotage." (pg. 35 in The Collects of Thomas Cranmer,
Barabee and Zahl)
Let’s avoid self-sabotage
by starting with applying the Antidotes to the Four Horsemen!
Instead of a Harsh Accusing Start-up, Let's start softer: I feel, I think...instead of YOU, YOU, YOU!
Instead of Defensiveness, take Responsibility for at least some part of the conflict. MEA CULPA! I admit it!
Instead of Contempt, which is like sulphuric acid poured on your relationship, build a culture of appreciation, and show respect for the Image of God in the other person.
Finally, instead of Stonewalling, take a TIME-OUT and calm down. (More about that in just a bit.)
Dreams in Conflict
Sometimes our conflict is
because we have differing Dreams and those dreams end up causing us to become
gridlocked in conflict. For example, one person
has a dream of Preserving the past and another has a dream of forging ahead
with new programs. Who is right? Both!
What’s the solution? In a
word, Dialogue… and that entails: Confessing your sins according to James 5:16. We also need to
ask questions of our opponents so that we can truly understand their position.
Here are some of the types of
questions to ask: (no sarcasms please!)
Why is this so important
to you?
What are your guiding feelings?
What do we agree about?
What are our common goals?
How might these goals be accomplished?
How can we reach a compromise?
How can I help to meet your core needs?
Surely having a
conversation like this and really listening to one another can only help to
heal our wounds!
Process your Fights
One very important thing
for couples and for congregations is to Process your Fights – talk about them
without getting back into the fight!
Here is a 5-step process
for talking through a fight:
State your Feelings
Tell your Story
Identify your triggers
Take responsibility
Think about
next time. What can we do better?
Make Repairs
During such a
conversation, it’s possible you might get off track.
Be alert to the other
person’s attempt at making a REPAIR. Accept the repair in a spirit of
gentleness and humility – and make one of your own as well! The classic one for
Christians is: “I’m sorry, please forgive me.”
Take the time to actually ask for forgiveness. Also take the time to actually say: "I forgive you!"
If you get too upset
(Heart rate 100 bpm or greater) Take a time out!
Rules for a Time Out:
Agree about taking a time out
•
Set a specific time to talk about it again
•
Soothe Self: Physically,
mentally, spiritually
•
Think hopeful thoughts: We can make it!
Remember:
For God
has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound
mind. (II
Tim 1:7 NKJV)
And : God is WITH US:
Mt. 28:20, ..." behold, I am with you always, to the end of the
age.” (ESV)
Challenge: Conquer the
Temptation by Resurrection Day!
Lent is the season for repentance and returning to the Lord. If we as Christians cannot get our act together, it is as if we are saying that Jesus was crucified and stayed in the ground. We serve a RISEN, not a dead Savior!
What to Expect:
By meeting temptation
successfully, we can expect to be prepared for:
Increased effectiveness
in ministry, and Further Temptations! (You can count on there being more as we
go along - as we progress in the Christian faith and we become stronger, the temptations also become stronger!)
Summary:
Friends, Temptation does
not come from God, it's not God's first choice for us. Temptation is a
solicitation from our Enemy to choose second best and so use our God-given freedom
for our own harm. But God, in his wisdom, knows how to turn even the temptation
to evil into a good thing for our benefit.
Jesus showed us the way
to resist Temptation successfully. It has all to do with being full of God's
Word and Spirit and using some very basic tools to talk respectfully to one
another. If we can do these two basic things, God will help us and use the
temptation to make us stronger for His kingdom.
May God grant us grace to
appropriate the gifts he has given us in order to successfully meet and
overcome every temptation. In the name of the Father and the Son, and the Holy
Spirit. AMEN.